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		<title>Why I Love Hadag Nahash &#8211;  למה אני אוהב את הדג נחש</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[This is not an exhaustive list, but I&#8217;m immersing myself in old and new material (מקומי and otherwise) in preparation for tonight&#8217;s live show at Porter&#8217;s Pub at UCSD (link to Facebook event page; go there or ping me directly &#8230; <a href="http://www.howdoyoujew.com/2011/03/10/why-i-love-hadag-nahash-%d7%9c%d7%9e%d7%94-%d7%90%d7%a0%d7%99-%d7%90%d7%95%d7%94%d7%91-%d7%90%d7%aa-%d7%94%d7%93%d7%92-%d7%a0%d7%97%d7%a9/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='wb_fb_top'><div style="float:right;"></div></div><p>This is not an exhaustive list, but I&#8217;m immersing myself in old and new material (מקומי and otherwise) in preparation for <a href="https://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=203613316322845">tonight&#8217;s live show</a> at Porter&#8217;s Pub at UCSD (link to Facebook event page; go there or ping me directly for ticket info &#8211; $20 for non-students).</p>
<p>1. Crowd-sourced video for BaSalon shel Salomon (In Salomon&#8217;s Living Room &#8211; בסלון של סלומון):<br />
<iframe title="YouTube video player" width="640" height="390" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/vSW04S2YbCY" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe></p>
<p>2. Creative video for Shir Nehama (Consolation Song &#8211; שיר נחמה) featuring the beautiful Middle Eastern steel guitar work of Yehuda Keisar:<br />
<iframe title="YouTube video player" width="640" height="390" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/d1uvv83Z_FY" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe></p>
<p>3. Brutally hard-hitting video for Od Ach Echad (One More Brother &#8211; עוד אח אחד). Visually this will really only hit hard if you&#8217;re Israeli, but the lyrical sentiment is powerful no matter where you&#8217;re from.<br />
<iframe title="YouTube video player" width="640" height="390" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/Rz-xsKZYnPw" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe></p>
<p>4. Great live performance of Halifot (Suits &#8211; חליפות) featuring the wonderful backing vocals of the very pregnant Liora Yitzhak, whose child (now a toddler if I have the recording date right) will grow up to either be this band&#8217;s biggest fan or will hate them passionately, but may never understand why.<br />
<iframe title="YouTube video player" width="480" height="390" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/I7oanDDMGG4" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe></p>
<p>5. Another of their huge social commentary hits with an added layer of irony added visually &#8211; Shirat haSticker (The Sticker Song &#8211; שירת הסטיקר). The lyrics were written/compiled by David Grossman, a prominent Israeli author and peace activist, from political and social bumper stickers found in Israel:<br />
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<p>6. Misparim (Numbers &#8211; מספרים) is a now somewhat out-of-date song about some significant statistics in Israeli society (and Sha&#8217;anan Street&#8217;s personal life) that still beautifully illustrates the band&#8217;s style. It&#8217;s out of date only in terms of some of the real numbers reported (e.g., unemployment rate and monthly salaries of executives), not in terms of how unjust and significant the gaps still are. This is a fan-made video; I couldn&#8217;t find an official one. TRIGGER WARNING (TW): Brief still images of terrorist attacks, including WTC.<br />
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<p>7. There is no number 7. Come down and enjoy the show with me tonight!</p>
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		<title>Looking forward, looking back</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Aug 2010 23:28:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I delivered the d&#8217;var Torah this past Shabbat at Ohr Shalom. I had volunteered to do this months ago, but had completely forgotten about it, so when the rabbi emailed me on Thursday night to remind me, I emailed back &#8230; <a href="http://www.howdoyoujew.com/2010/08/19/looking-forward-looking-back/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='wb_fb_top'><div style="float:right;"></div></div><p>I delivered the <em>d&#8217;var Torah</em> this past Shabbat at <a href="http://ohrshalom.org">Ohr Shalom</a>. I had volunteered to do this months ago, but had completely forgotten about it, so when the rabbi emailed me on Thursday night to remind me, I emailed back with a &#8220;no problem&#8221; message that, thanks to the emotionless nature of the medium, completely masked my anxiety about figuring out what to say less than 48 hours later about a <em>parasha</em> I hadn&#8217;t read yet (this year).</p>
<p>But, as as happened before, the texts along with the particular circumstances of my life (or God&#8217;s guiding hand, whichever you prefer) provided me with inspiration and I delivered this relatively succinct message:<br />
***<br />
While reading this week&#8217;s <em>parasha</em>, I was reminded of a conversation I had with Rabbi Meltzer about a week ago, toward the end of <em>shiva</em> for his grandfather, Poppa Harvey. It was a mundane conversation about corrective lenses &#8211; how long we&#8217;ve worn glasses or contact lenses, that sort of thing. In particular, there&#8217;s a passage in chapter 17, verses 18-20, that really jumped out at me:</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;When [a Jewish monarch] is seated on his royal throne, he shall have a copy of this Teaching written for him on a scroll by the levitical priests. Let it remain with him and let him read in it all his life, so that he may learn to revere the Lord his God, to observe faithfully every word of this Teaching as well as these laws. Thus he will not act haughtily toward his fellows or deviate from the Instruction to the right or to the left, to the end that he and his descendants may reign long in the midst of Israel.&#8221;
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<p>I was struck by the implication of this passage about the centrality of the Torah &#8211; how consistent and constant a presence it must be, no matter our station in life. Throughout the generations, though, as our circumstances have changed for better or for worse &#8211; and let&#8217;s be honest, we&#8217;re Jews, so it&#8217;s mostly been for worse, right? &#8211; our perspective has changed. To put it another way, our vision has been impaired. Distance, in time and space, does that. So we&#8217;ve needed corrective lenses to view our central text &#8211; in the form of rabbinic commentary, <em>midrash</em>, <em>aggadah</em>, etc. &#8211; to help us see some things more clearly. So, for instance, the rabbis made certain that the rules for sentencing someone to death, laid out in this week&#8217;s <em>parasha</em>, earlier in chapter 17, were so strictly interpreted and adhered to as to make carrying out capital punishment virtually impossible; there is truly no recompense for errors in such cases.</p>
<p>Some lenses, though, don&#8217;t just correct, they OVERcorrect &#8211; they <strong>distort</strong>. I daresay there are interpretations of the Torah &#8211; lenses worn by some readers &#8211; that themselves make a <em>to&#8217;eva</em> (an abomination) of the sacred texts we work so hard to make relevant and accessible in our everyday lives.</p>
<p>Thus there have been numerous violations of chapter 20, verse 19, </p>
<blockquote><p>When in your war against a city you have to besiege it a long time in order to capture it, you must not destroy its trees…&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>The violations have occurred <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_hbJZUetYxg">at the hands of settlers</a>, and, <a href="http://www.howdoyoujew.com/2007/07/24/its-the-irony-stupid-hospitality-and-spirituality-in-the-middle-east-then-and-now/">to my great shame</a>, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cjwI26-zV74">at the hands of Tzahal</a>, our Israeli Defense Force, when they have uprooted, destroyed or stolen Palestinian olive trees from land that is occupied &#8211; that is, arguably, under siege.</p>
<p>Too hard for you to swallow? Too bad; it&#8217;s true. But I&#8217;m not here to make a political speech, so I&#8217;ll move on to something a bit closer to home:</p>
<p>There have also been countless violations of chapter 16, verse 20,</p>
<blockquote><p>	Justice justice shall you pursue צדק צדק תרדוף</p></blockquote>
<p>when rabbis and other community leaders deny the personal rights of a segment of the population. Rather than concentrate, as many have, on the fact that some of that segment&#8217;s behavior is described as abhorrent in the Torah, more leaders should have actively and eagerly pursued justice for all, a clear <em>mitzvah</em> explicitly laid out in this week&#8217;s reading. I do applaud the <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rabbi-michael-lerner/why-jews-should-rejoice-a_b_672257.html">recent</a> <a href="http://statementofprinciplesnya.blogspot.com/">spate</a> of <a href="http://www.jewishjournal.com/morethodoxy/item/from_the_sidelines_cheering_the_blocking_of_prop_8_39100805/">positive</a> news</code> in this regard, but we still have far to go.</p>
<p>As we approach the new year, I encourage all of you to shift your focus inward - get as nearsighted as you possibly can. Take a look at YOUR corrective lenses. We ALL wear them in one form or another: </p>
<ul>
<li>They may be frames that wrap around the sides of our faces;</li>
<li>tiny specks that sit right on our eyeballs;</li>
<li>or, the most common and insidious of all, those that are completely embedded inside our heads - our preconceptions, our stereotypes, our rushes to judgment, and so forth.</li>
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<p>Take a good look at yourselves, and see if you can't wipe away some of the <em>schmutz</em> that's accumulated over the last year (or however long it's been; it's never too late to start).</p>
<p>Then crown yourselves monarchs - go on, you have my permission (the Rabbi's not here, it's OK) - and heed the call of the Torah:<br />
As you sit on your royal throne, revisit our holy texts. Again. And Again. Look at them through your freshly polished lenses and reflect on the words, so that you do not become haughty toward your fellows, and so that you may continue to reign for many years to come.</p>
<p>Shabbat shalom.<br />
***<br />
A few days after delivering this <em>drash</em>, I received <a href="http://www.craignco.com/jewels/jewels2010/elul8.php">this Jewel of Elul</a>, written by <a href="http://www.pjtc.net/">Rabbi Joshua Levine Grater</a>, which beautifully encapsulates the feelings he and I have as we prepare these sermons.</p>
<blockquote><p>The blank screen that unfolds before each sermon is my darkness - formless and void.  And then I begin to create.  As I sit down to write, I am aware of this creation teaching, for it calls me to find the message needed for the moment. </p></blockquote>
<p>I encourage you to sign up to <a href="http://www.craignco.com/jewels/jeweladay.php">receive Jewels of Elul via email</a>, and browse the archive of previous <a href="http://www.craignco.com/jewels/">Jewels</a>. They are provocative, insightful, inspirational, and powerful.</p>
<p>May we all see more clearly in the coming year.</p>
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		<title>Shabbat shalom x2</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Starting off the weekend right with a couple of outstanding drashot from two of my favorite rabbis: First, again, is Rabbi David Wolpe from Sinai Temple in LA, whose weekly Off The Pulpit I&#8217;ve mentioned before &#8211; it&#8217;s consistently inspirational &#8230; <a href="http://www.howdoyoujew.com/2010/02/05/shabbat-shalom-x2/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='wb_fb_top'><div style="float:right;"></div></div><p>Starting off the weekend right with a couple of outstanding drashot from two of my favorite rabbis:<br />
First, again, is <a href="http://www.sinaitemple.org/learning_with_the_rabbis/rwolpe.php">Rabbi David Wolpe</a> from <a href="http://www.sinaitemple.org/">Sinai Temple</a> in LA, whose weekly <a href="http://www.sinaitemple.org/learning_with_the_rabbis/writings.php">Off The Pulpit</a> I&#8217;ve mentioned before &#8211; it&#8217;s consistently inspirational and thought-provoking (I&#8217;m including the sign-up information at he bottom so you can subscribe too):</p>
<blockquote><p>Yearning to Learn</p>
<p>By Rabbi David Wolpe</p>
<p>Knowing where to find information is not the same as possessing it.  Each fact we learn is arranged in the matrix of all we already know.  One who knows how to Google &#8220;Shakespeare sonnets&#8221; cannot be compared to the one who has memorized Shakespeare&#8217;s sonnets.   The latter carries the words with him.  The former is an accountant of knowledge; he knows where the treasure is, but it does not belong to him.</p>
<p>Real education instills a desire for knowledge, not merely the tools to acquire it.  We are shaped by what we know and what we yearn to know.  The Talmud tells us that as a young man Hillel was so desperate for words of Torah that he climbed on the roof of the study house to hear the discourses of his great predecessors, Shemaya and Avtalion.  Noticing the darkness, they looked up and saw the young man on the skylight, covered with snow.  The rabbis rescued Hillel, washed and anointed him, and sat him by the fire.</p>
<p>&#8220;If you want to build a ship,&#8221; wrote Antoine de Saint Expury, &#8220;don&#8217;t drum up people together to collect wood and don&#8217;t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the sea.&#8221;  First teach children to love learning; the web will wait.</p>
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<p>Closer to home is my dear <a href="http://www.tiferethisrael.com/Rabbi">Rabbi Leonard Rosenthal</a> of <a href="http://www.tiferethisrael.com/">Tifereth Israel Synagogue</a>, who co-officiated at my wedding and continues to be a valued spiritual leader and guide. The <a href="http://www.myjewishlearning.com/texts/Liturgy_and_Prayers/Siddur_Prayer_Book/Torah_Service/Prayer_for_the_Sick.shtml">Mi Shebeirach</a> prayer is on my mind and my lips a lot these days, so this is particularly poignant and meaningful for me:</p>
<blockquote><p>Dear Friends:</p>
<p>I meet with our Abraham Ratner Torah School students one Wednesday a month. We usually meet in our Goodman Chapel. This month I introduced them to a new addition to our chapel, the Mishebeirach tapestry that was fashioned from the creative contributions of many members of our Sisterhood and congregation.</p>
<p>This fabrication of this tapestry was the brainchild and labor of love of Sharyl Snyder. Sharyl had seen a similar tapestry on display on Temple Emanu-El and thought we should have one as well. Our Mishebeirach tapestry enlivens our chapel with its very personal artwork and stands as a reminder to all who are ill or in pain that they are not alone. At Tifereth Israel Synagogue they are a member of a community that cares and prays for them.</p>
<p>I asked the students to find the multiplicity of Jewish symbols on the tapestry. They correctly identified many of them and shared how they thought creators of each square expressed their care and concern for those who are ill.</p>
<p>I also used the introduction of the Mishebeirach tapestry to explain to our students the Mishebeirach prayer we say each morning at our daily minyan and on Shabbat (&#8220;May the One who blessed our ancestors&#8230;send healing to&#8230;&#8221;).</p>
<p>On the spur of the moment I also said the prayer with them and asked them to share the names of their relatives and friends who were ill and pray for their recovery. It was very quiet during our prayer and I found myself surprised by how it had turned our learning into a spiritual and sacred experience.</p>
<p>That same evening we talked about the Mishebeirach prayer at a meeting of our Ritual Committee. We all expressed the same thought: we all believed that our communal prayers for those who are ill are efficacious and powerful even though we are not sure how they work.</p>
<p>The next time you are in the synagogue, please stop by the chapel to see the new Mishebeirach tapestry. I also invite you to find as many Jewish symbols as you can and try to discover their relationship to Jewish healing and life. You may also want to use the opportunity to say your own prayer for those you love who are suffering or in pain.</p>
<p>Even though your prayer does not guarantee that those who are suffering will be healed, I am confident that their burden will be eased by your caring.</p>
<p>Shabbat Shalom,<br />
Rabbi Leonard Rosenthal<br />
Tifereth Israel Synagogue<br />
San Diego, CA<br />
rabbi@tiferethisrael.com</p></blockquote>
<p>Hope these words help you have a truly peaceful and meaningful Shabbat.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Earlier this evening, after a terrific day that started with our amazing music class with the fabulous Ms. Laura and continued with a fantastic get-together with our awesome chavurah (including you, Bernsteins! See you soon!) at Fanuel St. Park, my &#8230; <a href="http://www.howdoyoujew.com/2010/01/31/we-must-be-doing-something-right/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='wb_fb_top'><div style="float:right;"></div></div><p>Earlier this evening, after a terrific day that started with our amazing <a href="http://sandiegomusictogether.com/">music class</a> with the fabulous Ms. Laura and continued with a fantastic get-together with our awesome chavurah (including you, Bernsteins! See you soon!) at <a href="http://sdplaygrounds.com/mission_pacific_beach/fanuel_street_park.html">Fanuel St. Park</a>, my beautiful 3-year-old daughter, of her own volition, helped clear our dishwasher (she did about half of the top rack while I was on the phone). I briefly thanked her, but I owe her a bigger show of gratitude tomorrow (for the help in the kitchen and for the fact that she was asleep before 8 PM).</p>
<p>It made me think of this beautiful drash by R&#8217; David Wolpe that I received just the other day as part of his Off The Pulpit series (highly recommended subscription; some of the drashot are even shorter than this one, but they&#8217;re always thought-provoking, often profound, and ever relevant; I&#8217;m including the signup info at the bottom so it&#8217;s easy for you):</p>
<blockquote><p>For My Daughter</p>
<p>By Rabbi David Wolpe</p>
<p>This past Shabbat I had the great joy of addressing my daughter on her Bat Mitzvah.  I pointed to the phrase in her parasha (Torah portion), &#8220;&#8230; a night of watching.&#8221; (ex. 12:42)  It occurs twice in the Bible, both times in the same sentence. The first time it refers to God&#8217;s watching; the second to the Israelites watching.</p>
<p>What were the Israelites watching?  It was the eve of redemption and they had to protect their children as plagues ravaged Egypt.  Parents do many things â€” we dream and disappoint; we hope, we advise, we criticize, we draw close, we puzzle, we praise.  But mostly, we watch.  We watch as our children grow and change.  We watch as they listen to our stories and create their own stories.  We watch as they become not who we plan for them to be, but who they truly are; as they step from our vision into God&#8217;s.</p>
<p>My wife very beautifully said that when she looks into my daughter&#8217;s eyes she sees not just where she is, but all the phases of her life.  The parallelism in the verse makes sense: as God watches us, when we see a child flourish, we get a glimpse of God.</p>
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		<title>Debates? Who needs debates?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Oct 2008 21:33:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Too many words. You know what they say about pictures&#8230;]]></description>
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<img src="http://howdoyoujew.com/images/candidatetrains.jpg" alt="The 2008 candidates as trains" /></p>
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		<title>Someone please tell me again why anyone would vote for this guy or anyone in his party?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Sep 2008 03:36:28 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='wb_fb_top'><div style="float:right;"></div></div><p>Also, how much do you think the Obama people would have to spend to buy this from The Daily Show and use it as the basis for their ad campaign from now until November?</p>
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		<title>A Day In Israel: Wednesday, July 16, 2008 &#8211; 13th of Tamuz, 5768</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[0830 We got up and started getting ready for our day. This included a light breakfast for us and Hadarya. 0900 My friend, roommate, and rabbi Scott, called to tell me that Channel 10 News was covering the prisoner exchange &#8230; <a href="http://www.howdoyoujew.com/2008/07/17/a-day-in-israel-wednesday-july-16-2008-13th-of-tamuz-5768/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='wb_fb_top'><div style="float:right;"></div></div><p><em>0830</em> We got up and started getting ready for our day. This included a light breakfast for us and Hadarya.</p>
<p><em>0900</em> My friend, <a href="http://www.mishpachatmeltzer.com/">roommate</a>, and rabbi Scott, called to tell me that <a href="http://www.nana10.co.il/">Channel 10 News</a> was covering the prisoner exchange in the north, in case I was interested. I was, of course, so I turned on the (fancy flat panel) TV in our flat and started watching.<br />
Within a short time, the feed switched to the Lebanese side of the border, where the Hizballah spokesman began his remarks in preparation for the exchange. With the posturing typical of Arab representatives of years ago (and still all too common today) when the Arab leadership spoke of pushing the Jews into the sea, he spoke in grandiose and pompous terms about the &#8220;war of aggression started against&#8221; Hizballah by Israel in 2006, and the &#8220;intense international pressure&#8221; Hizballah withstood regarding the prisoner exchange. Despite the pressure, he said, on their own schedule, his organization was now ready to turn over the captured Israeli soldiers, Ehud &#8220;Udi&#8221; Goldwasser and Eldad Regev (he of course did not use Goldwasser&#8217;s nickname).</p>
<p>A bit of background is appropriate here: the 2006 Lebanon War was in fact instigated by a Hizballah ambush on the convoy Goldwasser and Regev were part of, along with a Katyusha rocket attack on northern Israeli civilian targets timed to coincide with the ambush. The <a href="http://dover.idf.il/IDF">IDF</a> operation in Lebanon to try to neutralize Hizballah, which lasted just over a month, cost hundreds of lives on both sides of the border, and failed to accomplish its secondary objective, returning the kidnapped soldiers (I will not address here whether the primary objective of neutralizing Hizballah, was accomplished or not).<br />
Israel&#8217;s policy and military code has always held that we do not leave a man in the field of battle, be he wounded, dead, or otherwise, so the only kind of negotiation Israel has ever undertaken with terrorist groups has been in the form of prisoner exchanges. These deals have historically been ridiculously lopsided, partly because it is rare for Israeli soldiers to be captured by the enemy in any condition, and largely because Israel places such a high value on the lives of its soldiers and citizens.  Thus, we have in the past released dozens, sometimes hundreds of prisoners in exchange for one or two or three missing or captured men.<br />
Two things stood out about the deal for Goldwasser and Regev: First, we didn&#8217;t know for certain whether our men were dead or alive. We knew from forensic evidence at the scene of the ambush that they&#8217;d been seriously wounded, enough that IDF officials publicly stated that they needed immediate medical attention in order to survive. We obviously had no way of knowing if Hizballah provided any, let alone adequate, medical care to our men, so the nation, and the two families, were left mostly in the dark these last two years, although IDF Intelligence had told the families that the two were &#8220;most likely&#8221; dead.<br />
More significantly, the second thing that made this deal different is that, for the first time, Israel had agreed to release a captured terrorist with blood on his hands, that is, one who had murdered Israelis. This had always been a well-defined and well-known line that Israel didn&#8217;t cross in prisoner exchanges with any party, but our position in this case was weakened by a variety of factors. Thus it was that in exchange for the two soldiers whose fate we did not definitively know, we agreed to release <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samir_Kuntar">Samir Kuntar</a>, a Lebanese Druze terrorist directly responsible for the deaths of four Israelis, including two children, in an attack on the northern coast city of Nahariya in 1979. In addition to him, four other Lebanese prisoners and the remains of 199 Lebanese killed in fighting with Israel were included in the deal.</p>
<p>Back to the morning of the exchange: After the Hizballah rep announced they were returning the soldiers, a reporter shouted out, &#8220;Are they alive or dead?&#8221; and the terrorist representative said, &#8220;You will see in a moment.&#8221;<br />
It was then that a couple of goons pulled a black coffin out of a waiting vehicle and laid it on the ground in front of the assembled media and Hizballah and Red Cross personnel. Then they brought out a second coffin.</p>
<p>The Israeli commentators on television who were narrating and translating the action were noticeably moved and shaken by the revelation that the two reservists, who were just 31 (Udi) and 26 (Eldad) when they were kidnapped, were dead. Among other comments, they pointed out that it was impossible to tell (at least at that point) when the soldiers had actually died, but that hardly mattered.</p>
<p>I sat and watched the coverage for over an hour: I saw the same footage over and over again of those coffins being laid on the ground by people unfit for <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bereavement_in_Judaism#Preparing_the_body_.E2.80.94_Taharah">the task</a>; I watched cutaway live footage from outside the home of the Regev family in the small town of <a href="http://www.kiriat-motzkin.muni.il/">Kiryat Motzkin</a>; I listened to the commentators and pundits talk until they had nothing more to say; and I cried.</p>
<p>I started crying very unexpectedly (at least <strong>I</strong> didn&#8217;t expect it), and very hard, and I kept crying for several long minutes as that footage of the coffins played over and over again in the living room of our rented flat in Jerusalem with my wife and toddler daughter watching me. My lovely wife brought over a box of tissues, and my darling daughter noticed rather quickly that something was wrong and began saying, &#8220;Aba&#8230;Aba!&#8221; in a plaintive, sympathetic tone that made me fall in love with her all over again for the umpteenth time this week. (I wrote out a draft of this entry in longhand before typing it, and choked up as I wrote that last bit, and I just got teary AGAIN typing it in.)</p>
<p><em>1030-ish</em> We left the flat and got a cab to the city center, where the Jerusalem office of the <a href="http://www.pnim.gov.il/">Ministry of Interior</a> is located, to begin the process of registering Hadarya as an Israeli citizen and applying for her passport. We got new passport pictures taken at the kiosk (the Hebrew word for <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Convenience_store">bodega</a>) next door to the office, and went upstairs to wait in what I was sure was going to be the first of many long lines that day. My suspicions were not helped by the receptionist, who told me that we&#8217;d first have to go to one office for the citizen registry, then go to another area entirely for the passport application. But I knew the nature of the bureaucracy we were dealing with, so I went along with it, knowing we could always split the two tasks up and come back if it took too long.</p>
<p>We got into the first office after a not-too-long-at-all 10 minutes, and sat down to explain to Malka the clerk what we needed to do. While she remained somewhat surly throughout the process, I&#8217;ll just say that we left Malka&#8217;s office less than half an hour later, with my new Israeli ID card supplement papers listing my correct and current marital and parental status, and with Hadarya&#8217;s passport application already in the pipeline, with the passport expected at my aunt&#8217;s in Ra&#8217;anana (the only permanent address I can reasonably claim in Israel) within a week &#8211; that is, in time for us to get it before we leave back for the States. Malka didn&#8217;t HAVE to process the passport app in addition to the citizen registration; she chose to help us out, I know not why. But it is not my place to question such acts of charity; I merely accept them when they are given.</p>
<p><em>Around lunchtime</em> We walked the block and a half to the Ben Yehuda promenade and enjoyed lunch at McDonald&#8217;s, a singular pleasure we can only partake of in Israel. We then walked up and down the busy shopping thoroughfare and did what tourists do, but with the added flavor and advantage of some authentic Middle Eastern bargaining and haggling over prices. This helped us complete much of our gift shopping for family, friends, and ourselves without feeling like we spent too much money.</p>
<p><em>1530</em> After yummy frozen yogurt with mix-ins, we headed back to the flat and met up with the Meltzers for a trip to <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Malha_Shopping_Mall">Malha Mall</a> for dinner (and a <a href="http://www.kungfupanda.com/">movie</a> for the Meltzers; Hadarya can&#8217;t sit through a feature film yet) and some more shopping. Jenn scored a couple of beautiful new hats for shul, we had kosher KFC for dinner, and Hadarya cavorted with a couple of dozen other kids at a little play area in the mall before we left to go home for bedtime.</p>
<p>I realized on the way home (and on the nightly stroll through the neighborhood putting Hadarya to sleep) what a powerful, emotion-filled, fun, difficult, hot, typically Israeli day it had been, and I felt so at home.</p>
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		<title>What do we want? CHANGE! When do we want it? NOW!</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Feb 2008 23:26:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Who&#8217;s gonna make it happen? EVERYBODY! &#8230; well, at least I know that when I go to Washington I&#8217;ll be able to get some change.]]></description>
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well, at least I know that when I go to Washington I&#8217;ll be able to get some change.<br />
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		<title>Elective inspiration</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Feb 2008 22:39:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Yeah, it&#8217;s specific to one candidate, but the message is so universal, and so beautifully produced, that it&#8217;s well worth sharing: a song, based on Barack Obama&#8217;s speech after the New Hampshire primary, produced by the Black Eyes Peas&#8217; will.i.am. &#8230; <a href="http://www.howdoyoujew.com/2008/02/06/elective-inspiration/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='wb_fb_top'><div style="float:right;"></div></div><p>Yeah, it&#8217;s specific to one candidate, but the message is so universal, and so beautifully produced, that it&#8217;s well worth sharing: a song, based on Barack Obama&#8217;s speech after the New Hampshire primary, produced by the Black Eyes Peas&#8217; will.i.am. I especially like the inclusion of the chorus phrase in Hebrew, spoken by actress Maya Rubin, and his use of the term &#8220;repairing the world&#8221;:</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[No, not Hadarya&#8217;s.. she&#8217;s way beyond that. In terms of podcasting, I&#8217;m still a fetus. But I think I&#8217;m approaching my delivery date. Consider this a swift kick: my inspiration for getting myself into this beautiful mess, Adam Curry, played &#8230; <a href="http://www.howdoyoujew.com/2007/12/18/baby-steps/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='wb_fb_top'><div style="float:right;"></div></div><p>No, not Hadarya&#8217;s.. she&#8217;s way beyond that. In terms of podcasting, I&#8217;m still a fetus. But I think I&#8217;m approaching my delivery date. Consider this a swift kick: my inspiration for getting myself into this beautiful mess, Adam Curry, played my audio comment on his last show (<a href="http://m.podshow.com/media/21/episodes/91257/dailysourcecode-91257-12-17-2007.mp3">DSC #701</a>, posted Dec. 17 at <a href="http://curry.podshow.com/?p=899">curry.com</a>). My comment begins at about 29:24 and it is decidedly NOT family friendly (specifically my comment about the <a href="http://www.tsa.dhs.gov/">TSA</a> and Adam&#8217;s misadventures traveling into and out of his own country. Of course, I think his show is awesome to listen to the vast majority of the time, and you should give it a try. But it&#8217;s fun hearing people you know talk to celebrities on a massively popular show, isn&#8217;t it?</p>
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